5 Things Most Couples Regret Not Doing on Their Wedding Day

Insights from 15 Years of Capturing Weddings in Melbourne

When the confetti settles and the cake’s been cut, there are a few common things couples wish they had done differently on their wedding day. At Film My Wedding, we’ve spent 15 years creating heartfelt, cinematic wedding videos in Melbourne, and we’ve seen it all, the magic, the mayhem, and the “if onlys.”

Here are the 5 things couples often regret not doing, so you can make sure you don’t.

1. Not Taking Enough ‘Us’ Time

It’s your wedding, yet so many couples spend the entire day being swept from one moment to the next, getting ready, taking photos, greeting guests, then straight into speeches and dancing.

By the end of it, many couples tell us: “It felt like a blur.”

One of the best ways to truly soak in your wedding day is to consciously carve out small “pause moments.” We recommend taking at least 5 minutes every hour just for yourselves, no cameras, no guests, no coordination. Talk. Laugh. Reflect.

Pro tip: Let your photographer and wedding videographer know you’ll be taking these pauses. We always support couples creating that breathing space — it makes for a much more grounded and joyful presence on film.

2. Not Getting a Wedding Videographer

We get it, we’re biased. But we also hear the same line from couples again and again:

So what exactly will you watch back in 1 year, 2 years, 10 years? Your vertical phone clips from guests? Wedding films are about emotion, movement, voices, reactions, the in-between moments.

After 15 years in the game, trust us:

iPhone footage doesn’t cut it.

We’re here to capture your day with depth, the happy tears, the little laughs, and the goosebump-worthy vows. If you’re searching for a wedding videographer in Melbourne, don’t leave it too late.

Because the day flies. The film stays.

3. Wearing Uncomfortable Shoes or Dresses

You’ll be walking. A lot.

From the ceremony aisle to the dance floor to navigating through tables and hugging 120 people, and nothing ruins the joy quicker than aching feet or a wedding dress that keeps snagging or slipping.

Before you buy those heels or that fitted gown, ask yourself:

Choose fashion with function. We’re all for a stunning look, but not at the expense of your comfort, energy, and natural movement (which also looks 100x better on video).

4. Hiring Too Many Vendors

You don’t need a battalion of people hovering around you all day. Also, confirm with everyone else that they will not be getting their own random 'content creator' that will be with them to capture their 'content'. We've seen how this can negatively impact the day.

We get asked this a lot:

All you really need is a tight, well-trained team, ideally 1 or 2 photographers and 2 videographers. At Film My Wedding, we shoot with intent and distance, ensuring we capture everything without being in your face or crowding the energy of your day.

The more people around, the more you feel like a production, not a person.

5. Choosing the Wrong Photographer

This one stings the most because it affects your whole day.

A wrong-fit photographer:

• Doesn’t know Melbourne’s locations or lighting

• Doesn’t have a plan B for weather

• Drains the vibe instead of elevating it

You want someone who can run the day with calm authority, make you laugh, and actually make the photo process fun. Don’t just look at their portfolio, meet them first. Make sure you click before they start clicking.

It’s your face. Your moments. Don’t hand them to someone you don’t vibe with.

Final Thoughts

Weddings are a whirlwind. But with the right planning, and the right team, you’ll walk away with zero regrets and a heart (and hard drive) full of unforgettable memories.

At Film My Wedding, we create timeless, cinematic wedding films in Melbourne that reflect you, not just your schedule. If you’re looking for a wedding videographer Melbourne couples love, we’d be honoured to tell your story. Contact us here today!